PARASOCIALIZE

One of eight ways · 20 stories · 57 entries

PERSONA

The one who performs at you. A real person, doing a job, in front of you. Real, and working. Which is what makes it complicated - the asymmetry is manufactured by somebody who is paid to produce it.

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We all have one. You know their dog's name, their coffee order, and absolutely nothing about them

A widely-shared explainer on why every single person has a parasocial relationship and why most of them are fine.

If you have clicked this far without knowing what the site is about, this is the article. Here is the whole thing: you feel like you know someone who has never heard of you. You know their routine. They do not know you exist. That is the entire phenomenon, it has been studied since 1956, and approximately everyone you know has at least one and thinks they are the only one. So come in, pick a section, and stop being embarrassed about it.

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The idol 13 stories · 30 entries

A performer at enough distance that the work is mostly finished before you arrive. Musicians, film stars, athletes, heads of state treated as performers rather than as office-holders. The tie is to a body of work and a public image that the person is not required to maintain for you.

The daily creator 5 stories · 10 entries

A person whose output is regular enough to have a place in your week, and who is visible in real time. Streamers, podcasters, video essayists, talk hosts. The tie is to the schedule before it is to the person.

The presenter 0 stories · 9 entries

The one who addresses you directly, by name, in second person. Newsreaders, weathermen, game show hosts, telethon appeals. The purest case of Horton's direct address: the illusion is engineered, and it works because it is engineered.

The athlete 0 stories · 5 entries

Attachment to performance rather than to a person. You follow the sport and the person arrives attached to it. Transfer, retirement and injury are the recurring breaks, which is why this sits so close to the archive register.

The head of state 1 story · 3 entries

Someone addressed as a collective rather than as an individual. The parasocial tie is to a role that outlives the person holding it, which is a different object from an idol's and breaks differently.

Other ways

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